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It turned out while our friends were supportive, a lot of our respective family members were hoping this was a phase and we would outgrow it – Marriage? That’s permanent! What were we thinking?! We were young! Surely we couldn’t be serious??? – We were.
In the six months that followed, we realized that if we were going to get married it would be on our own so we tried to look at that in a positive way – it would be on our terms! We could do anything that we wanted and our day would be only ours. We planned at least a dozen weddings:
Every time we came up against a roadblock. Who would come?
The kicker was hearing the term “fake wedding” from one family member. Ouch.
At this time we turned to our friends and colleagues who rallied behind us. It became common knowledge that we were in need of some familial support and we got it. Advice, suggestions, questions, offers of help for venues or celebrants – the works. But we couldn’t settle on a plan that would work for both of us. The stress set in.
Then one night we were watching an episode of ‘The Office’ (the American one – don’t judge us) and a long-time couple decided to elope to escape all of their drama. I looked at Theresa and said, “I wish we could do that” and from that moment it was like a big weight lifted off our relationship.
The pressure was gone. We were going to run away.
And that night we were introduced to a word that would define our wedding to vendors: Elopement.
Our original plan was to do exactly what Jim and Pam did and get married on a boat in the spray at Niagara Falls, with one noticeable difference – we were going to get married on the Hornblower rather than the Maid in the Mist because then we could get legally ‘married’. I know it’s semantics but for me the word is very important. I understand Domestic Partnership and I respect Civil Union but I wanted to get MARRIED. Just like everyone else. So Canada it was!
I was studying for my Post-Grad, Theresa had just graduated from her Masters, we were struggling to pay rent, our power bill was so late that our power had been turned off… and we decided that it was New York. Of course it was New York! That’s where we were planning on honeymooning. We were going to get married in New York. Someday.
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Chelsea & Theresa Adams are two married theatre practitioners that currently reside in Macau, China, working with circus and magic. Originally hailing from New Zealand they have worked as dressers, operators, tour managers, ushers, designers, producers, munchkin wranglers, production managers, and writers, before finding their theatrical happy places – Chelsea in Stage Management and Theresa in Directing. Together and separately they have worked on opera, musical theatre, puppetry, physical theatre, children’s theatre, dance, comedy, straight drama, Shakespeare, burlesque, cat walk, corporate events, televised sports events, stand up - travelling New Zealand and the world with productions they feel passionately about. Chelsea & Theresa also enjoy musical theatre, long distance driving, 3 am juggling, cats, feminism, psychology, photography, ironed shirts, time travel, helping others, making lists, theme parks, reality tv and beach vacations. They live by the motto that everything happens for a reason, every situation is an opportunity - it’s all about the way you look at it. Their article ideas are their coffee discussions, late night frustrations, post event reflections, acquaintance stories and future aspirations – thought by both, typed by Chelsea, edited by Theresa. Everything is up for discussion.
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